sqlite: enable defensive mode by default #2461

Job	Run time
Build slim tarball	1m 37s
x86_64-linux: with shared libraries	27m 29s
aarch64-darwin: with shared libraries	22m 59s
x86_64-darwin: with shared libraries	36m 49s
aarch64-linux: with shared libraries	23m 30s
	1h 52m 24s

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