feat(server): New TTL system, enforce max queue length limits, lazy waitpoint creation #4322

Job	Run time
sdk-compat / Deno Runtime	1m 55s
sdk-compat / Cloudflare Workers	2m 1s
sdk-compat / Node.js 20.20 (ubuntu-latest)	2m 2s
sdk-compat / Bun Runtime	2m 2s
e2e / 🧪 CLI v3 tests (windows-latest - npm)	3m 30s
sdk-compat / Node.js 22.12 (ubuntu-latest)	1m 58s
e2e / 🧪 CLI v3 tests (windows-latest - pnpm)	4m 29s
e2e / 🧪 CLI v3 tests (ubuntu-latest - pnpm)	2m 10s
e2e / 🧪 CLI v3 tests (ubuntu-latest - npm)	1m 43s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (1, 8)	5m 33s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (4, 8)	3m 16s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (1, 8)	6m 5s
units / packages / 🧪 Unit Tests: Packages (1, 1)	8m 13s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (2, 8)	4m 5s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (8, 8)	3m 29s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (8, 8)	2m 47s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (6, 8)	3m 50s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (2, 8)	10m 9s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (3, 8)	6m 15s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (6, 8)	5m 3s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (7, 8)	5m 22s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (5, 8)	4m 1s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (5, 8)	7m 25s
units / internal / 🧪 Unit Tests: Internal (4, 8)	5m 29s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (7, 8)	6m 2s
units / webapp / 🧪 Unit Tests: Webapp (3, 8)	6m 17s
typecheck / typecheck	6m 5s
units / webapp / 📊 Merge Reports	45s
units / packages / 📊 Merge Reports	20s
units / internal / 📊 Merge Reports	19s
	2h 2m 40s

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